Like many of us, journalist Celeste Headlee felt like she was just. too. busy. What finally made the difference was increasing her time perception — tracking what she did in her waking hours — and making changes to get the life she really wanted.

You don’t. And you’re also steering the focus away from someone who probably just wants to be heard. Here’s how to be a more considerate conversation partner, says radio host and writer Celeste Headlee.

We must begin to talk and, more importantly, listen to those who disagree with us, says Celeste Headlee. She offers 4 smart ways to discuss politics without getting in a fight.