Harmful stereotypes pervade our thinking — even if you believe yourself to be completely unbiased. These 3 steps can help you notice and disarm your own prejudice, and psychologist Steven C. Hayes takes us through them.

Most of us live with a constant stream of internal statements, criticisms and commands running through our heads. But we have a choice: We don’t have to let them define us — or our days, says psychology researcher Steven Hayes. Here’s how we can disentangle ourselves.