Friendship, cuddling, trust, prioritizing — while these may not sound so sexy, they can help keep the fire burning in a long-term relationship, according to sex educator Emily Nagoski.

Too many of us struggle to achieve a body ideal that’s just not obtainable by humans. It’s time to redefine what’s good, healthy and attractive on our own terms, say writers (and sisters) Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski.

Confidence and joy in your own body are the keys to healthy intimacy, says educator and author Emily Nagoski.